Episode 82: The Unbroken Brain with Maia Szalavitz

May 21, 2018
We are excited to have Maia Szalavitz on today to talk about her new book The Unbroken Brain.

Maia Szalavitz is one of the premier American journalists covering addiction and drugs. She is co-author of Born for Love and The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, both with Dr. Bruce D. Perry. Her book, Help at Any Cost is the first book-length exposé of the “tough love” business that dominates addiction treatment. She writes for TIME.com, VICE, the New York Times, Scientific American Mind, Elle, Psychology Today and Marie Claire among others.

Maia sheds light on understanding addiction as a learning disorder rather than a brain disease as well as the key connection between addiction and love.  You won't want to miss this episode.

Episode 81: Stages of Relationships

April 30, 2018

Jackie and Jon examine the often confusing and arbitrary "relationship stages" we all expect to go through in every single one of our romantic relationships.  We will take a look at questions like:

"Should I ever date friends?"
"How do I learn to listen to my intuition in my romantic relationships?"
"When is it the right time to 'move to the next level'?"
"How do I know when it's time to get out?"

Episode 80: What is Authenticity?

April 24, 2018


Jackie and Jon follow up on a nugget from a previous episode where we mentioned that authenticity was not expressed in emotionally vomiting.  Today, we talk about what goes into living and expressing the self authentically.  We discuss if authenticity always feels good, and common short-cuts to authenticity.

Episode 79: Male Partners of Sex Addicts

April 16, 2018

We recently received an email from a listener who is a male partner of a female sex addict.  He rightly observed that there are some special challenges in healing in those circumstances.

We are dedicating this epsiode today to examine why it can be extra painful for men who are with female sex addicts to get the help and support they may need.
We also mentioned resources for male sex addicts looking for qualified therapists to help them.  www.sexhelp.com and https://www.apsats.org/specialists#!directory/map are good places to start.

Episode 78: Dating in Recovery with Amy Smith

April 9, 2018

We welcome Amy Smith with Worth Recovery on again (You can hear her on Episode 58) to talk about our joint venture One Layer Deeper.  We are excited to announce these weekend intensives focused on taking your relationships in recovery one layer deeper.

You can learn more about One Layer Deeper by visiting our website www.onelayerdeeper.com.
In this episode, we explore some practical dos and don'ts for dating in recovery, the role of artificial timelines, and the question of dating other people in recovery.

Episode 77: Talking with Mari Lee

April 2, 2018

We talk with our friend and returning guest Mari Lee about current affairs and why so much emotion is evoked around large issues like #metoo, politics, guns, and the like.

Jackie and Mari also mentioned a quote from David Bowie- here it is in its entirety.

“And these children that you spit on
As they try to change their worlds
Are immune to your consultations.
They're quite aware of what they're going through.



Episode 76: Don’t Shame Me!!!

March 26, 2018

In recent years, the world has been done a giant service by getting a deeper view of shame and how it affects us and our relationships.  Awareness on this is becoming more and more mainstream.

Along with this awareness can come a tendency to paint with a broad brush and to rely on soundbites rather than a careful exploration of a complicated issue.
In this episode, Jackie and Jon take another look at shame and discuss situations where guilt (others like Pia Melody have called it healthy shame) is useful in recovery.  Don't be quick to paint with a broad brush- we've continued to keep the experience of shame in our social evolution and in our DNA.

Episode 75: Emotional Intelligence in the Workplace (sneak peak of Hidden Trauma Crash Course).

March 19, 2018


We've been hard at work on some additional resources for our friends in recovery- so you aren't getting a fresh Thanks for Sharing today- but you are getting something new.
This is Episode 3 of our side project: The Hidden Trauma Crash Course.  All existing episodes are now available in iTunes and Google Play and we will soon be launching the HTCC website.  
Let us know what you think (thanksforsharingpodcast@gmail.com) - we're looking forward to being back next week with something new.

Episode 74: 3 Circles and the “Yes List”

March 12, 2018

Most people in recovery struggle to define all of the 'no's'- the things that they need to be aware of, stay away from or give up in order to maintain sanity and strong recovery.  In this episode, Jackie and Jon discuss the 3 Circles method for sexual sobriety and make a case for the importance of focusing on 'yes' in recovery.  

This concept comes from the 12-step fellowship SAA.  You can read their source material here: https://saa-recovery.org/literature/abstinence/

Episode 73: I,Tonya with Kelly McDaniel

March 5, 2018

We have Kelly McDaniel back on to talk about her take on I, Tonya - the recent film starring Margot Robbie and Allison Janney depicting the story of Olympic Figure Skater Tonya Harding.  Kelly talks about toxic love, mother wounds, perfectionism, patriarchy and many other forces that shape the broken hearts of girls with cruel mothers.

Resources mentioned in this episode:
Books by Peg Streep- Daughter Detox: Recovering from An Unloving Mother and Reclaiming Your Life and Mean Mothers: Overcoming the Legacy of Hurt