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We all have experiences where a situation triggers a trauma response in us.  Something from the past feels as though it is happening again in our present.  Our body responds, our thoughts and feelings follow and we are in a trauma response.  What can we do to shorten the time spent in trauma response?  How can we work our way out of our trauma response and back into our current time where we have options and resources?

 

In this episode Jackie talks about the pain of betrayal trauma.  Betrayal trauma has a significant impact on both the brain and the nervous system of the betrayed partner and makes it difficult for them to return to a state of calm and safety.  Included are steps for healing betrayal trauma.

In this episode, Jackie talks about the practice of Sabbath. Of consecrating a time each week for rest, renewal, and delight.   Sabbath is more than the absence of work; it is not just a day off when we catch up on television or errands. It is the presence of something that arises when we consecrate a period of time to listen to what is most deeply beautiful, nourishing, or true. It is time consecrated with our attention, our mindfulness, honoring those quiet forces of grace or spirit that sustain and heal us. 

In this episode Jackie talks about Maslow's hierarchy of human needs that dictate a person's behavior.  Jackie talks about the belief window that figuratively sits in front of our face and also dictates the beliefs we have about ourselves and the world we live in.  If we are looking to change behavior, it starts with changing the beliefs that sit on this belief window. 

 

In this episode, Jackie talks about moving beyond sobriety into optimal recovery.  Often this is a lifelong process.  A corrective emotional experience is required for previous traumatic or dysfunctional critical events that were maladaptively processed and resulted in addiction or other coping mechanisms. 

In this episode Jackie talks about the continuum of strategies for getting what I want and need and balancing the health of the relationship.  This dynamic comes up in our romantic relationships as well as with our kids, our friends and extended family relationships.  There are strategies we can employ to get what we want or need that are relationship constructive and there are strategies that are relationship destructive. 

In this episode Jackie talks about balancing novelty and security in our relationships.  Security fosters a sense of love and belonging while novelty fuels passion, satisfaction and happiness.  Too much of one and not enough of the other can lead to relationship dissatisfaction.  

In this episode Jackie talks about childhood experiences that shape and inform our sexual relationships as we get older.  Many times, these issues are origin stores behind problematic sexual behavior.  In healing sexuality, it is important to explore deeper issues and not just stay on the surface focused on the yes and no's of sexual choice.  

 

In this episode Jackie talks about the EFT as a therapy modality when working with couples.  EFT is all about healing attachment wounds and experiencing relationships in a positive, inviting and safe way.  What happens when couples get stuck in conflict?  What happens when communication doesn't lead to connection? Often it is old patterns of interacting and the negative messages that come with those patterns that are getting in the way of connection.  

In this episode, Jackie talks about power dynamics that affect us in our daily lives and pit us against each other instead of with each other.  Recent events from last week brought the patriarchal structure of the United States and our representatives front and center.  It's not uncommon for change to inspire change.  As we have felt the uncertainty of a global epidemic, the issue of racism made it's way to center stage and is now followed by sexism.  We are in need of a change.  I see individuals and couples work towards and make these changes every day.  Will this change raise from the micro level to the macro?  I hope so!