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For a lot of people, those are surprisingly difficult questions to answer.

Sometimes we genuinely don't know. Sometimes we know, but we've learned to keep parts of ourselves private. Sometimes we've gotten very good at figuring out what's practical, reasonable, available, or best for everyone else before we consider what we actually want.

And sometimes "be grateful" quietly became "don't want more."

In this episode of Thanks for Sharing, I'm talking about how we can become wantless and needless—and the different ways that can show up.

We talk about needs versus wants, gratitude, entitlement, vulnerability, the unshared self, and why knowing what you want doesn't mean you expect to get it.

Because our wants aren't just about getting things.

They're often clues to who we are.

 When You Don’t Know What You Want: Becoming Wantless and Needless

 

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There's a moment almost everyone knows: someone says something, and before you've even processed it, you're already deciding not to react. You smile. You let it go. And somewhere in that quiet moment, you might be abandoning yourself.

In this episode, I talk about the difference between self-abandonment (the pattern) and self-betrayal (the moment-by-moment choice that builds it) — and why understanding that difference matters more than most people realize.

We get into:
→ Why "it's best to just move on" is sometimes wisdom, and sometimes a trauma response wearing wisdom's clothes
→ The beliefs running underneath this pattern — not lovable, don't matter, too much, stay small, won't be accepted if truly known
→ What your body already knows before your mind catches up
→ A real client story that shows what this looks like even inside a good, functioning relationship
→ And a small story from my own dinner table about catching yourself mid-betrayal — and going back to fix it

This isn't about always speaking up. It's about knowing the difference between a real choice and an old belief making the decision for you.

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#selfabandonment #selfbetrayal #therapy #mentalhealth #relationships #differentiation #authenticity #innerchild #podcastepisode #healingjourney  

Your "difficult" child might just be determined. Your "too much" might just be someone who hasn't finished growing into her enthusiasm yet.

In this episode, I talk about the difference between adaptation and development,  why the traits that got labeled as problems in childhood (stubborn, dramatic, bossy, shy) were often never the problem at all. They just hadn't matured yet.

We go deep: reparenting, the functional adult, why insight alone doesn't change us, and why healing was never about becoming someone new, but about continuing to grow into who you already were.

New episode is live

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The deepest injury of narcissistic neglect isn't what happened to you. It's what never consistently happened for you. Nobody wondering what you were thinking. Nobody asking what you felt. Nobody staying curious about who you were becoming.

And when those thousands of small moments are largely absent, something else develops in their place. Not a self. An adaptation. An identity organized around keeping the peace, managing moods, and becoming whoever the room needed you to be.

If you grew up wondering why you can't answer simple questions about yourself — what you want, what you like, what you feel,  this episode is for you.

Today I'm talking about what narcissistic neglect actually does to a developing child, why it so often comes from mothers and goes unrecognized, what develops instead of a healthy sense of self, and why the conversation you want to have with your parent rarely gives you what you're hoping for.

Development doesn't end in childhood. And healing isn't becoming someone different — it's finally uncovering the person who never had enough room to emerge. 

 Link in bio.

 

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In this episode, Rachel joins Jackie as they dive into the intricacies of early recovery in therapy. In this episode, they discuss the foundational stages of addiction recovery, focusing on the challenges faced by individuals new to therapy.  From addressing justification and rationalization to the role of accountability, Jackie and Rachel offer insights into the vital components that set the stage for long-term sobriety and deep recovery. Whether you're a therapist or someone at the beginning of a recovery journey, this conversation serves as a reminder of the importance of revisiting the basics.  Tune in to explore how early steps pave the way for meaningful change and lasting growth.

 

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That question has been on my mind after two clients asked me to record this episode.

For some of us, touch meant comfort and safety.

For others, it meant obligation, manipulation, or even fear.

Some of us grew up in families that hugged all the time. Others rarely experienced physical affection. And sometimes, it wasn't the presence or absence of touch that mattered most—it was what that touch came to mean.

In this episode, I explore:
 What our families teach us about touch
 Why healthy relationships respect "not yet"
 How our earliest experiences become our first map of relationships
 Why our adaptations made sense—and why they don't have to define us
 How healing happens one safe relationship at a time

 

One of the ideas I keep coming back to is this:

Children don't just survive their families. They mistake their families for the whole world.

The good news is that our first map doesn't have to be our final one.

I'd love to hear from you:

What did touch teach you about relationships growing up?

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#Attachment #HealingJourney #TraumaRecovery #Relationships #EmotionalHealth #Therapy #MentalHealth #ChildhoodTrauma #Connection #Boundaries #PersonalGrowth #ThanksForSharingPodcast  

Changing your patterns doesn't just change you. It changes the relationships around you.

 

One of the biggest surprises in healing is that being healthier doesn't always feel better, at least not at first. The people around you have learned the old dance just as much as you have. So when you stop over-explaining, caretaking, shutting down, or apologizing for everything, the relationship often wobbles before it finds a new rhythm.

That doesn't mean you're doing it wrong.

It means the choreography is changing.

In this final episode of my four-part series, we explore:
• Why healthy change can create tension
• How family systems respond when you break old rules
• Why other people's reactions don't have to determine your growth
• How to stay grounded in your second response, even when others aren't sure what to do with the new you

One of the biggest lessons I've had to learn is this:

Being needed isn't the same as being loved.

Changing that belief didn't just change me; it changed the expectations inside some of my relationships. Growth doesn't happen in isolation. It happens one relationship at a time.

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You can understand your pattern completely. You can know exactly where it came from, what it's protecting you from, why it shows up the way it does. And still, in the moment, you do the thing anyway.

That's because understanding a pattern and interrupting it are two different skills. And interrupting it and actually replacing it — building something to put in its place — that's a third skill entirely. That's what this episode is about.

The second response isn't a version of you that shows up once you've healed enough. It's a direction. Something small and specific and chosen, built from a value you actually hold, practiced in moments that don't matter so that it's available when they do.

This week: what do you keep losing when the pattern wins? That answer is usually pointing straight at what you're building toward. 

 

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Understanding your patterns is one thing. Interrupting them in real time is something else entirely. In this episode, we talk about the tiny space between the trigger and the reaction — and how to find it, use it, and slowly make it bigger.

 

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Why can you understand your behaviors and still repeat them: You can explain exactly why you do it. And then you do it again.

 

That's not a character flaw. It's the difference between insight and integration, and they are not the same thing.

In this episode, I'm talking about why understanding your patterns doesn't automatically change them, what's actually happening in your nervous system when insight isn't enough, and the real mechanisms that create lasting change — including corrective experience, practicing in activated states, and why repair might be the most underestimated part of healing.

If you've ever thought "I know this stuff, so why do I keep doing it?" — this one's for you.

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