October 19, 2021
We all make choices every single day—some big, some small. Some are choices related to time and money. Others are related to the life roles we each prioritize. There are a billion things we could do, but we must make choices with our limited time. Is there a difference between making a decision and a choice? How does trauma impact the ability to make "good" choices?
September 21, 2021
In this episode Jackie wraps up the series on the Twelve Principles by Dr. Patrick Carnes. Generativity is principle twelve. Generativity refers to "making your mark" on the world by caring for others as well as creating and accomplishing things that make the world a better place. It’s leaving the community, culture, and world better than you found it. This principle aligns with step twelve, which is all about having had a spiritual awakening, By practicing the twelfth step along with the twelvth principle we are set to make the world, our communities, our families, and our friendships more meaningful and more purposeful.
August 17, 2021
Life is messy. It has always been messy. Life is full of loose ends, uncertainty, confusion, and frustration. Yet nothing is wasted or random or pointless. Everything that happens is nourishing compost for our spiritual and emotional growth. It is in the midst of the messiness of life that we often find meaning or, sometimes, that meaning finds us.
August 3, 2021
Recovery teaches us, and sometimes forces us to trust. We learn to trust others. We learn to trust ourselves. We learn to trust an ongoing process of renewal. We give ourselves over to uncertainty, free fall and the care of a Higher Power. Trust is active, not passive. It emboldens us to speak up, to take a stand, to make decisions, and to move forward into a future we can neither foresee nor control. It prompts us to take one leap of faith after another. There’s no one more important to trust than yourself. How can we learn to trust ourselves and practice the principle of trust, when that hasn't been our experience of ourselves, relationships or the world?
July 15, 2021
Merriam Webster defines responsiveness like this: reacting in a desired or positive way; quick to respond. We all probably think about speed when we think about responsiveness, too, but how many of us take the time to make sure our responses are positive? That we are responding in a timely and reliable way? Responsiveness is more than just a way to communicate. It becomes a way of being with ourselves, with others and with the world.
June 29, 2021
In this episode Jackie talks about how commitment plays a role in our recovery as well as in our relationships. When we make a commitment, we are saying that we will do all we can to make it happen. There are factors that get in the way of us keeping our commitments. As we work to deepen our recovery, our ability to make commitments becomes an important part of our recovery. How we commit to ourselves and to others is a deciding factor in our success.
June 15, 2021
There is no courage without risk. When we act courageously, we put ourselves on the line for a greater good and make ourselves vulnerable to loss. In recovery, our approach to risk changes completely. We learn to consider our risks instead of following our impulses. We consult our inner observer, then consciously choose which risks to take. One day at a time, we become both more courageous and more discerning.
May 25, 2021
We all know the importance of telling the truth. Generally, we have been told how important honesty is from a young age. It is usually stated in a direct, simple way that makes it seem like being honest is easy. We aren’t always told how to live an honest life or that it is harder than it sounds. In this episode, Jackie talks about how to practice living a life of honesty and why it is such an important principle in recovery.
May 4, 2021
In this episode, Jackie assembles her fellow female colleagues at Healing Paths for a book club. They are talking about the book Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle by Emily and Amelia Nagoski. This will be a 3 part series talking about each of the three sections of the book and how it is important information and applicable if you are a woman or if you know a woman.
April 6, 2021
Before we began recovery, many of us had little experience of being part of a healthy family, of fitting into a functional community, or of living in a climate of trust. Often, from a very young age, we were denied the opportunity to bond with other people. These experiences carry with us into our adult relationships and cause us to close off or isolate. The process of opening and bonding is a powerful step in our healing journey.